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Write It Out

Write It Out

Everyone gets frustrated sometimes. Occasionally, this can get to the point where you have to vent your feelings; or you feel like you’ll explode. We’ve talked about texting and emailing as ways to vent these feelings. However sometimes you aren’t in the mood to talk to anyone, or maybe you’re mad at the people you usually talk to. You still have these feelings though, and you know they need to come out.

In this case, a good way to vent your feelings is through a private journal. You don’t have to worry about what you say, because the only person who gets to see it is you. This can be a great way to let out your feelings, which can avoid arguments and hurting other peoples feelings.

Another more public way to vent your feelings is in an online journal. This can be through a blog, or one of the many social media platforms out there. Now you might not want to get into the tiny personal details publicly, but there are still a great many advantages of venting this way. First of all, you can get advice about your problems from people who have more life experience, knowledge or simply a different perspective than you. Also your venting does not always have to be about your problems, you can tell your friends what you have been up to, or about a special event in your life. Many sites also have room for pictures, so you can add photos from your latest outing, show others your latest art project, or whatever else comes to mind really.

You should be careful with what you say online though. You never know who will be reading it. If you are complaining about your someone you know, you could find yourself having to try to explain your words to them later on. It is not worth ruining a close relationship like this just because you were mad. This is where it would be good to draw the line between what goes online, and what goes into a more private journal.

Overall, the point is that sometimes you just need to get things out and release your feelings.

Call on a Friend

Call on a Friend

call-on-a-friendBottling your emotions seems like a good thing to a certain extent because you know that if you told your boss what you really think about his new company plan, you would probably get yourself fired. However doing this is kind of like filling up a water bottle. There is only so much you can hold, and eventually it all comes out and makes a big mess. These explosions of feelings also don’t tend to come at the most opportune times either.

To avoid embarrassing yourself with sudden outbursts, it is better to get these feelings out before they build up. Letting your feelings build up to the point where they explode can sometimes lead to very undesirable consequences. This can be anything from getting your best friend so mad that they don’t talk to you for a month, to losing your job because you talked back to your boss.

Talking to a good friend, spouse, significant other, or close family member when you are feeling upset or angry is a good way to keep from loosing your lid. However often you are too busy to drop what you are doing and make a phone call. If you have unlimited texting, I find a good thing to do in this situation is to send a long text out to some of your close friends venting your feelings. Often at least one of them will write back quickly with reassuring words or just something to make you smile.

However if you do not have unlimited texting, this option can cause even more stress when you get that phone bill at the end of the month. (Texting can get rather expensive). If this is the case, a good idea might be to write an email to one of your close friends just letting them know you had a bad day, and to just write you back when they get your message. Although the response might not be immediate (people tend to check their phones more than their email), at least you got your feelings out and avoided getting yourself in an potentially embarrassing or unpleasant situation.

Getting out your feelings little by little as they happen could also make you a happier person, since you are dealing with your feelings as they come and not walking around being mad all the time.